In a recent television interview, Dr. Osama Qabil, a scholar from Al-Azhar, spoke extensively about the nature of anger and the importance of learning to control it. He stated that anger is a natural human feeling, yet managing it is what truly matters. He explained that anger is of two types: the first is “praiseworthy anger,” which reflects a rejection of wrongdoing, following the example of the Prophet Muhammad, peace be upon him. He referred to the incident involving Lady Safiyya, who was mocked for her short stature, and the Prophet responded with words so profound that, as he described, could change the taste of the sea if mixed with its water.

He noted that the Prophet would only become angry for the sake of truth, never out of injustice or personal hostility. On the other hand, blameworthy anger is associated with shouting, impulsive actions, and decisions that often lead to regret. He emphasized that the Qur’an highlights gentleness as a key tool in calming anger, referencing the verse: “By mercy from Allah, you dealt with them gently.”

Dr. Qabil explained that the brain’s anger center is located in the frontal region, and thus calming strategies begin with practical steps such as performing ablution, changing one’s physical position, and seeking refuge in God—likening anger to fire that water can extinguish. He also introduced the concept of “light-guided anger,” where parents, leaders, or guardians express controlled anger meant to guide rather than harm.

He warned that anger can push individuals into irreversible decisions, such as divorce, resignations, or severing relationships—a psychological state known as the “point of no return.” He advised waiting 20 to 30 minutes before making any major decision during emotional turmoil.

He concluded by stressing that the goal is not to eliminate anger entirely, but to channel it wisely, citing the verse: “And when they are angry, they forgive.” A balanced person, he said, is one who becomes angry with wisdom and forgives with purpose.