The Egyptian Fatwa Authority clarified that anyone consulted about a suitor who is known to have real flaws has the duty to provide sincere advice to protect the inquirer’s family interests. Advice should ideally be brief and general, such as “he may not be suitable for your daughter,” avoiding excessive detail or defamation, unless clarity cannot be achieved without specifics.
The fatwa emphasized that marriage is a solemn covenant and the start of a new life, which requires careful choice. Advising honestly in this context is a trust, not an act of slander, aimed at safeguarding both parties and preventing potential harm. The ruling cited prophetic sayings: “The one who is consulted is trustworthy,” and “When someone seeks your counsel, advise him,” establishing that mentioning flaws falls within legitimate guidance.
It was also noted that most people present their best traits during initial meetings, and certain flaws may be hidden. Therefore, a knowledgeable consultant has the duty to reveal critical flaws to the inquirer, while avoiding exaggeration or defamation, focusing solely on protecting the family and preventing future regret or issues.
The fatwa illustrated practical examples from the Prophet’s life, such as the case of Fatimah bint Qais regarding her suitors, where the Prophet guided her in line with her welfare, as well as examples from the Companions, showing that advice about flaws was given without public humiliation.
In conclusion, consultants must balance the inquirer’s need for information with discretion, providing truthful and responsible advice, and only disclose flaws when necessary to ensure clear benefit, without exaggeration or disparagement, maintaining the principle of sincere counsel.
